Parenting moral dilemma. Which child should I blame for breaking my wife’s antique beer stein?
So I could not wait for the snow to melt, so I tried using my son's radio controlled helicopter in the living room. I soon realized that it was a mistake when I crashed into the mantle and took out Great Grandma Harriets' family heirloom, a German beer stein from like 1908.
Should I blame the oldest one who is never in trouble, but should really have a lesson in unjust parental discipline. ( he is quite overdue).
Or should I blame the youngest one again, who just recently finished "his" punishment for breaking the mother in laws picture hanging in the den. ( hey, who knew Nerf dart guns could pack so much power )
I mean he is used to it anyway. So I'm thinking of strategically placing one of his toy projectiles up on the mantle as evidence. This should leave no doubt about his guilt.
Of course when she is not around, all punishments will be excused, cause I will be good Dad vs. mean Mom.
And really it is her fault anyway. That guy from Antique Roadshow told her how much it was worth. It should never been out in the open.
So, who should it be??
deevious--- why can't I be both?
Neither…ever heard of crazy glue?
I’m going with child #1 also. But explain to him how important it is for Daddy not to take the blame when it comes to these fun and games.
Then how Mommy will punish Daddy more severely then the kids and they will never be able to have fun in the house when Mom is away.
those bnerf guns do pack a mean punch.
Now that my kids are grown up, I have found out what really happened when Dad was home alone with them. And since every one of them would say "sorry Mom, it was an accident….I usually blamed the hubby anyway for not paying closer attention. Kids never got too harsh a punishment.
I should have known better.
This is a tough one, I would leave it to chance and see which one she blames then to make her feel guilty for blaming that one of them by telling her that it was the other one… you know you might as well screw with everyone in the house while you are at it… should also make the punishment lighter and it is always good to create misguided feelings of guilt.
Well my hubby would just be like you remember the time you came home really drunk and were dancing around all wild and throwing your clothes everywhere…..yeah that’s the time you broke it. And I wouldn’t think twice about it. Too bad there isn’t a cat, dog or a fish to blame it on. Okay I’m with HB goody two-shoes #1 gets the punishment but just remember who helped you get those free xmas presents at all those stores….don’t traumatize the children they need to work later.
Here’s what you do, get the vacuum out and vacuum the carpet. Then tell her that you were trying to help her out around the house by vacuuming. When you accidentally bumped into the mantle knocking things off of it.
This way, yes she’s upset about you breaking the beer stein, but you get points for trying to help out around the house. Another plus is you might get banned from using the vacuum ever again.
It’s worked for me, i tried cooking, made a huge mess and the house smelled for a week. I’ve been banned from cooking. Tried doing dishes, broke a plate, banned from washing dishes. Tried vacuuming, burned up motor in it "trying" to clean out the sofa, banned from vacuuming. It’s to the point now that i’m only allowed to work on things outside the house. Trust me it’s worth it.
I think the oldest one should take the hit this time. First of all, he’s never in trouble. Odds are that punishment for him will be less than the younger one (first time offender sort of thing). Also, he needs to see how it works…. the whole father / child relationship for when he has kids of his own. Depriving him from punishment would be depriving him from important life lessons (as you said). And finally, odds are the younger one will do something in the mean time to join his brother ‘in trouble’, so he won’t be alone for very long.
Blame both of them. Confine them both to their room for a month and allow them nothing but broth and bread as punishment.
Well, speaking as a person with high morals and unbelievable integrity, i suggest you blame kid #1. You can’t save all the fun for kid #2, can you? Besides, if he doesn’t get his asz handed to him at least once, he’ll end up like Clay Aiken. It’s true.
Borrow the neighbor’s dog. You were playing with him.. Now everybody’s off the hook.
you’r plain and simple a COWARD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
personally i would let the parakeet out of the cage and blame it on him
i like the way your head works. your the type of guy i could be friends with. until its my turn to take the heat.
Grow up! Be a man and confess that you did! What sort of parent blames their own kids for something they did? Are you really that scared of your wife? Glad you aren’t my father or husband. I feel sorry for your kids and wife!
OMG i hope your just joking on who blame! seriously you need to just tell her your a tough dad when you boys play and if she has priceless stuff that she doesnt want broken to put it somewhere else! when ya have kids you dont put anything out to get broken! DUH! But you need to come clean and not blame the kids they’ll start blaming you for junk too
blame the youngest. He is in trouble alot for the things you know. Tell him this is for the things you dont know about. plus it is more believable and he is younger so he will have more time for therapy to work out his issues. If blaming the older one backfires you will lose credibility and you will be the bad guy for many many years.
the butler did it !!!
lol you are either an idiot or joking. Lmao sooo true….
Why don’t you be the ‘big one’ and just tell her you did it? I could never blame my kids for something I did! Anyway, you could have flown the helicopter with snow on the ground!! Just a kid at heart I guess!! Good luck! I hope she doesn’t ground you (and your helicopter)!